How often have we looked at someone else’s life and wished ours was going in that direction?
Wanted ‘that’ title in a work place?
Browsed life through rose coloured glasses?
Keeping up with the Jone’s!
Reality is, that we are often mislead by a person’s portrayed animated existence through social media and carefully chosen tinted image. Lurking behind closed doors at times is a less glamorous sparkle, dimed without make-up, basic baggy comfortable clothes with life not so perfect even dysfunctional episodes of relationship ups and downs, depression, eating disorders, mental illness, insecurities, alcoholism, domestic violence, drug addictions, children with behavioural issues and the list may go on…….
Recently I read a very well written article titled “Don’t compare your back stage to everyone’s front stage”. Yep take a moment and read that title again! Wow! I did a double take and then could not stop reading. The article was so relevant and true about how people showcase the very best of life to the world whether through social media or even perform to family or a crowd. “It compares the polished, edited and carefully curated propaganda of someone’s life (their front stage) to our messy backstage reality, with the thoughts of honey you are NOT keeping up”. (Cairns, J.)
Seriously in a world that is dominated by the humble mobile phone evolved to an essential personal item that we use every single day, captures the stylish and unattractive perspectives of life. Some people use these tools to create an unrealistic, sculptured (front stage) presentation, almost to a level of escape from reality. PC games in essence mimic the same behaviour by creating a character in a virtual world. It is not just ourselves that has produced this sense of perfection but the media portraying the rich and famous. Lifestyle, holidays, luxurious homes, designer clothes and when their world comes crashing down it is splashed all over the news, papers, magazines, FB, twitter and the list goes on.
In the business of todays life we have forgotten we are all human beings that require support, compassion, privacy, gratitude and do a re-take of our own self-image. Life is a journey that at times is challenging, rewarding, heart breaking and joyous. Each year we have weather patterns that change to the seasonal rotation and our biological existence is no different.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace. Ecc 3:1-8
The short of it….don’t compare another’s life to your own. Their front stage is the showcase but what does backstage look like? It could be a battle that we know nothing about. Be happy with who you are, make the most of life (it’s precious and brief), for every seasonal opening comes a closure, show gratitude each day. Don’t be so hard on yourself or others and LOVE LIFE!
Inspire Love Connection
Encourage Patient Joy
Connect Grace Humble
Nurture Compassion Peace
Grateful Self-image Gentle